People Make Time for Who They Want: 10 Tips to Handle Rejection
There is nothing more precious for each of us than our time and energy. Each day we only have 24 hours available, so when we feel like we’re giving out more of our energy than we’re receiving back, it can start to have a real effect on the way we see our value. The feeling of rejection can hold us back in many areas of our life, and when we perceive it as a personal attack on who we are, it can be catastrophic for our mental health.
In this blog, we’ll cover the deeper aspects of feeling rejected, what to do when you aren’t getting quality time with people, and how you can feel more empowered in these situations.
What to do when someone doesn’t make time for you?
It can feel hurtful and confusing when it feels like important people in your life, such as friends and family, aren’t making time for you. There might be gaps between when people text and reply, or it might feel like there are other people they want to talk to more than you. It has become human nature to presume that another person has negative reasons for choosing not to spend time with us. And whilst some people believe that people make time for what they want in life, without proper communication, we can never know why another person’s behaviour has changed.
Ultimately, you cannot change how another person acts or force them to find time for you. If you’re feeling like people don’t make time for you, or you’re tired of being the one to reply to people all the time, then there are some ways that you can approach the situation that can help you to feel more empowered and in control:
Accept the situation
We cannot change another person’s behaviour, so by accepting what is happening, we will stop trying to change the outcome.
Know your worth
You never know why someone chooses to place their energy elsewhere, but you don’t need to attach this to your value as a person. This situation is an invitation to recognise and strengthen your self-worth.
Place your energy in spaces where it is appreciated
Give your time and energy to those who will appreciate you instead of placing it where it is not reciprocated.
Love yourself
Be your own best friend and find time for yourself. Whether it’s focusing on your health and self-care or doing something that will bring more joy into your life.
Give yourself time and space
Don’t force yourself to feel ok about the situation instantly - it’s understandable to take some time and for you to take some space to consider the way forward.
Work out your own priorities
What do you want from your life? What is important? When we work out what our priorities are, we’re more able to set boundaries when it comes to our time and energy.
Practice reframing a situation
Is there a way you could reframe what is happening so that you begin to let go and feel more positive about it? What could be going on for them that you might not know about?
Process your feelings
The healthiest way to deal with our emotions is to allow them to flow. Journaling is a great and private way to hold space for your feelings - allow yourself to feel what comes up without any self-judgement.
Try not to overthink
When we overthink, we begin to take what is happening personally. It may seem a certain way to us, but we have no idea what the other person is thinking or the reasons behind their actions.
Empower yourself
We can sometimes get into the habit of waiting for permission from other people to live our lives. Instead of needing others’ validation, where could you take life into your own hands and create your own happiness?
Gaining more clarity
You never know why someone isn’t making time for you, but this experience gives us the opportunity to go inwards and turn any feelings of rejection into feelings of self-acceptance. We can spend a lot of time worrying about the actions of other people when the most empowering thing we can do is to focus on our own lives. Working with a Spiritual Coach can help you to process any emotions around rejection and help you to find clarity on the road ahead.
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